Kindness…Solve evil with good!
Devotions this week based on the Message: “BELIEVE: Week 27: KINDNESS”
(NOTE: This sermon series and devotional series is based on a book by Randy Frazee entitled, “BELIEVE.”
You may choose to download or purchase the book as a supplement to your worship and devotional emails.)
Romans 12:17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. 20 On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
I will admit that it is difficult to know what to do when evil affects you and your family personally. Emotions tell me to strike back. My hurting soul wants to make them hurt more. A lack of trust in the judicial system leads one to try to settle the score.
Repaying evil for evil…or sinning when you’ve been sinned against never is a good idea.
Paul wrote to the Ephesians, “26 “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:26-27)
Hard…right?
When you are wronged, the natural desire is to even the score which usually if not always involves sinning in return. I don’t know how many times I was called for a “retaliation foul” in basketball. I felt I was fouled. The ref didn’t call it, so I figured I would “get even.” Which I didn’t…I just got caught.
This doesn’t just happen on the basketball court, it happens in life. We get cut off in traffic, the temptation is to zoom ahead and cut them off. We are harmed by a bully, we want to strike back. It is so hard to NOT repay evil with evil. It’s what comes so naturally and easily.
Yet the Spirit of God through the Apostle Paul encourage us to do the following:
- Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Being sinned against is NOT an excuse to sin in return.
- Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. I don’t think this is encouraging us all to be “people pleasers” but it is reacting and interacting in a way that is consistent with the love and mercy of Christ.
- If it is possible, live at peace with everyone. It may not be possible, but our effort and desire is to end the conflict and restore a functional relationship in the body of Christ.
- Do not take revenge, but leave room for God’s wrath. God didn’t make anyone of us his judge, jury and executioner, so to speak. Sometimes we have to allow injustice to be and understand eventually that person will have to answer to the perfect holy God. Here’s a word of truth from the Prophet Nahum (1:2-3)
2 The Lord is a jealous and avenging God;
the Lord takes vengeance and is filled with wrath.
The Lord takes vengeance on his foes
and maintains his wrath against his enemies.
3 The Lord is slow to anger and great in power;
the Lord will not leave the guilty unpunished.
- Rather show kindness to your enemies. Why? In this way it will accentuate the evil they have done. It will show you are not willing to hit back. It is showing confidence that you don’t have to settle the score…God will if there is a score to be settled.
- Finally, repay evil with good. This is so hard, but it keeps you from sinning in response to sin, it shows your trust that God will sort it out, and it will show that you recognize that God has loved you, even though at one time you were his enemy.
Showing kindness is hard, but a powerful witness of God’s truth, character and love and the solution he gives for evil.
Apply: What situation is in your life that it is hard to think about showing kindness? What kind act might you show to someone who has done evil to you?
Prayer: Lord Jesus, thank you for showing love to me even when I was not showing love to you. Strengthen me, Spirit of God, to repay evil with good…always. AMEN.
Kindness…What did Jesus do?
Devotions this week based on the Message: “BELIEVE: Week 27: KINDNESS”
(NOTE: This sermon series and devotional series is based on a book by Randy Frazee entitled, “BELIEVE.”
You may choose to download or purchase the book as a supplement to your worship and devotional emails.)
Titus 3:3 At one time we too were foolish, disobedient, deceived and enslaved by all kinds of passions and pleasures. We lived in malice and envy, being hated and hating one another. 4 But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, 5 he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy.
Which of these groups of people would it be easy to be kind to?
- Foolish people?
- Disobedient?
- People entrenched in personal passions and pleasures?
- People living in malice and envy?
- People full of hatred?
NONE of them!
I would have a hard time being kind to any one of these individuals or groups of individuals! It is so hard to be kind to people who are full of hatred for you, into themselves, or just living a lifestyle set on pleasing themselves.
My kindness would have a hard time appearing in those situations.
If I would act that way, I would suspect it would be hard for people to be kind to me.
I can’t dismiss this list and detach myself from acting in a foolish, disobedient, self-centered way. I have to admit I fall into this category as well.
So what would God do with me and these people? Completely opposite of what I or others would deserve.
But “when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared…”
What did he choose to do…to me?
He SAVED me!
When God’s kindness showed up it was all about me and what I needed to stand right with God. The Spirit inspired Paul to write:
Philippians 2:5 Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: 6 Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. 8 And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death— even death on a cross!
God was willing to go to the cross for me to pay the price my foolish, disobedient, self-centered heart deserved. What drove him to do this? His mercy. His kindness. His love…for me…for you!
But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, 5 he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy.
This mercy is what we will build on to show mercy and kindness to others!
Apply: What does the kindness of God mean for you?
Prayer: Lord Jesus, thank you for taking the punishment our sins deserved so that we might experience and living in your saving grace now and forever! AMEN.
Kindness…Why is it so hard?
Devotions this week based on the Message: “BELIEVE: Week 27: KINDNESS”
(NOTE: This sermon series and devotional series is based on a book by Randy Frazee entitled, “BELIEVE.”
You may choose to download or purchase the book as a supplement to your worship and devotional emails.)
“Be nice.”
“Was that kind?”
“What would be the nice thing to do?”
These phrases echo in my mind from childhood and beyond. Which means one thing…I wasn’t always kind.
Kindness is “responding to others from a deep, moral inner conviction of what is the right thing to do for the sake of the other person.” (Randy Fraaze, Believe)
Kindness is tough because it means thinking of what is best for the other person…and we don’t do that naturally.
The Apostle Paul was inspired to write: 1 Thessalonians 5:15 “Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else.”
The fact that the Spirit of God had to record for us, “Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong” means that happens…all too often!
Why do we believe that repaying wrong for wrong will help? Perhaps it’s one of these reasons:
- I will solve the problem by striking back.
When someone cuts me off in traffic, I just zoom ahead of him and cut him off. There, I’m back in front. Really my striking back really doesn’t solve anything. It more than likely makes it worse…just for a split second I feel like the wrong is righted.
- I will settle the score by getting even.
This is probably the biggest reason we feel that repaying wrong for wrong is right. When we are wronged it creates an injustice. Often the wrong is not something that was “deserved” or “provoked” but someone just felt OK hurting me or someone else. So, our response? Make them feel worse or suffer worse than they did to me. Our inner sense for “justice” wants to take justice in our own hands and we become the arbiter of what is fair in response…usually it’s just adding sin to sin.
- I will stand up for myself
Repaying wrong for wrong seems like the manly thing to do. We don’t want to be the “softie” or get pushed around so we stand up for ourselves and fight back. (I’m not saying their might be legitimate times of self-defense that are necessary.)
All these really are lies of the devil to trigger our sinful nature into action and convince it that repaying wrong for wrong is the right thing to do.
It isn’t.
It just makes it worse and I’m sure we all have stories of “getting caught” as the person responding to a wrong someone else first inflicted.
So when we are wronged, what is the response?
Jesus taught, (Luke 6:27-31) “ 27 “But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. 29 If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. 30 Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. 31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.
Admittedly it is hard to repay wrong with kindness. It just isn’t natural…but it’s God’s way. Tomorrow we’ll find the reason why we don’t have to repay wrong for wrong, but repay wrong with kindness.
Apply: What leads you to want to repay wrong for wrong?
Prayer: Dear Lord Jesus, thank you for repaying wrong with kindness in our place. All too often we lash out and simply repay wrong for wrong. Forgive us and empower us by your forgiveness and example of one who was always kind, acting in the best interest of the other person. AMEN.
Patience…what does it look like?
Devotions this week based on the Message: “BELIEVE: Week 26: PATIENCE”
(NOTE: This sermon series and devotional series is based on a book by Randy Frazee entitled, “BELIEVE.”
You may choose to download or purchase the book as a supplement to your worship and devotional emails.)
Patience is a fruit of the Spirit and expression of God’s love. Like every gift of God we want to enjoy the gift ourselves, but also put that gift to work. So what does patience look like as God’s Spirit works in us. Here are five ways:
- Patience is evidence of wisdom instead of exhibition of folly.
Proverbs 14:29 A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly.
How many times have we found ourselves the fool as we reacted without all the information, did something stupid in an emotional reaction that affected our life for a long period of time. Patience allows one to pause before emotionally reacting. Patience gives time to gain perspective than react to a situation. Patience enables us to assess before acting.
- Patience is the willingness to wait when our impulse is to act.
Proverbs 16:32 32 Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city.
James 1:19-21 My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. 21 Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.
It is so easy to want to emotionally react or to deal with a situation swiftly. Patience is the answer when we are tempted to lash out in anger.
- Patience is allowing God’s plan to prevail when our plan seems better.
Romans 8:22 We know that the whole creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time. 23 Not only so, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for our adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. 24 For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what he already has? 25 But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.
Like we shared yesterday, God’s perspective is eternal. We want things to happen now, but God’s plan is at work. Patience is an exhibition of trust that God’s timing is always best and his plan is always for our eternal benefit.
- Patience is an exhibition of love. (1 Corinthians 13:4 “Love is patient”)
Ephesians 4:2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
Patience is “bearing” with one another. It is not easy. We experience the hurt. We experience feelings of injustice. Patience allows time for God to work spiritual growth in others and in us. Patience allows us to show love instead of anger or frustration.
- Patience enables me to be part of the solution, rather than part of the problem.
1 Thessalonians 5:14 And we urge you, brothers, warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone. 15 Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else.
Impatience can come from feeling the victim. I believe this comment by a Rabbi Jacob Staub commenting on the Hebrew word for patience and a situation where an individual had wronged him:
Reflecting back on the experience, I learn that by bearing the pain caused by another without swinging back, I can also be empowered. As long as I feel like an injured victim, I will either express my anger or to suppress it. But if I’m able to see myself as an agent who can change a situation, I have another choice—to act out of care and love, reaching out to reconnect and heal.
We all have opportunity to grow in patience. I pray God continues to give us situations to grow in and exhibit patience, and the Spirit given gift of patience to meet those opportunities!
Apply: Which of these five present the greatest opportunity for growth in your life?
Prayer: Lord, thank you for your incredible patience to show forgiveness for my many exhibitions of impatience. Grant me an extra measure of your Spirit to grow the gift of patience in my heart and life. AMEN.
Patience…starts with the Lord (Part 2)
Devotions this week based on the Message: “BELIEVE: Week 26: PATIENCE”
(NOTE: This sermon series and devotional series is based on a book by Randy Frazee entitled, “BELIEVE.”
You may choose to download or purchase the book as a supplement to your worship and devotional emails.)
Why is God so patient?
Perspective.
We “lose patience” because in the immediate moment, whatever the interruption into our plan causes frustration and even anger.
Traffic “causes” us to be late.
An illness lays us out for a week, year, or more.
Death of a loved one changes our plans.
An injury cuts short a lifelong dream.
And we ask “Why, Lord?”
Remember, patience is “the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.” But sometimes we are really stretched. Because we don’t want to be long-suffering, we don’t want the suffering to last long.
And so we struggle.
Buy why can God be patient?
God is patient because he holds the long perspective.
Remember the verse from yesterday: 2 Peter 3:8-9 But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. 9 The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.
Comments from the Theological Dictionary of the New Testament on the Greek word meaning “patience”: God’s patience does not overlook anything. It simply sees further than man. It has the end in view. It has the true insight which knows best. It is not swayed by human emotions.
God’s goal is for us to spend an eternity with him in heaven.
So everything that happens in life is intended to draw us closer to him, strengthen our faith, and ensure we end up in heaven.
But we have to see things from God’s perspective…at least as best we can.
Here’s some promises that help:
Romans 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
2 Corinthians 4:16-18 Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. 17 For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. 18 So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
Isaiah 55: 8 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. 9 “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.
1 Peter 1:3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, 4 and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade—kept in heaven for you, 5 who through faith are shielded by God’s power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time. 6 In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 7 These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. 8 Though you have not seen him, you love him; and even though you do not see him now, you believe in him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy, 9 for you are receiving the goal of your faith, the salvation of your souls.
With the promises in mind and God’s perspective in heart, draw on HIS patience to be patient, long-suffering, in all circumstances.
Apply: What challenges you to keep the long-perspective, God’s perspective, when you are being challenged to be patient?
Prayer: Lord, thank you for always holding the eternal perspective on my life. Help me to trust your plan and perspective are always best as I navigate situations that challenge my patience. AMEN.